Rape myths
There are many common myths about rape and sexual assault that might make you blame yourself, or question whether what's happened is a crime.
These myths have no place in the law, we don't believe them and we won't doubt you because of them. No matter who you are or what happened, we're here to support you.
Whether something is rape or sexual assault is about consent.
It isn't your fault and it's still rape or sexual assault no matter:
- what your relationship to the offender is
- whether you'd been drinking or taking drugs
- what you were wearing
- if you'd been flirting, kissing, or invited someone home - none of these mean you consented to sex
- if you changed your mind and stopped consenting
- whether or not you fought back or were injured
- how upset you seem - there is no 'right' way to react
- how long ago it happened
- whoever you are
- whatever your past, sexual or otherwise
- whatever your sex or gender - women, men and non-binary people all get raped and sexually assaulted
- whether you have any physical or mental health conditions or impairments
We often use the word victim, but we know some people prefer the word survivor. Find out about the language we use to talk about rape and sexual assault.
Rape and sexual assault within relationships
It's a myth that most people are attacked by strangers in dark alleyways. Most attackers know their victims and they can be relatives, friends or colleagues.
Rape and sexual assault can happen within marriage and relationships. Sex is about consent. If your partner has forced, threatened or pressured you into having sex with them, this is rape.
Find out more about the myths around rape at Rape Crisis.
Deciding to report it
We know deciding to report rape and sexual assault can be difficult. What to do is always your choice. We have put together some information that might help you decide whether reporting is right for you.
If you decide to report it to the police, you can report it:
- online
- by calling 101
- by going to a police station
If you want to report it but don't want to talk directly to us, you can also report rape and sexual assault to support organisations who can help you throughout the process.